This post on ThirdMom set me deeply thinking and feeling today. I love my daughter so much, I ache for her pain so much. We're doing what we think is right here in our household to help ease that, both in regards to race and adoption. But at the end of the day, it is still her life and her history that she has to absorb and integrate, with all the pain and sadness and rage that is appropriate for her. I hope there are many moments of peace for her along the way.