This evening, playing with the idea that I'm really the only person I can change in this world, I figured I might as well make a list of ways I want to be in the world. As I'm getting tired of the ways I don't like being, perhaps I'll allow myself to substitute in some fresher ideas if they're readily available.
In a short 15 minutes my list grew to 55 attributes. It seems to me that if I simply focused on seeing/being more of the things on my list, there wouldn't really be much time left to be grumpy and miserable. That's a novel thought.
Here's my list. Do you have a list? What's on yours?
big strong soft warm beautiful loving accepting playful good.boundaries flirtations expressive fun open intense relaxed flow.state proactive honest healthy responsive feeling loud cuddly attached friendly smart confident humble thinking safe connected heard seen loved trusted asked powerful celebrated supported generous grateful calm wise trusting intuitive available present compassionate joyful peaceful respected appreciated gentle gentled clear