I'm currently sitting and writing during Rosie's girl scout meeting, which is lead by volunteers.
One of them really gets under my skin. She's the one white leader and she's loud and dominates most everything that goes on instead of making space for the women of color to lead. I have a laundry list of insensitive things she's done and said over the course of the girl scout season. And yes, I've given feedback to the volunteer coordinator.
But what she just said totally pissed me off. The group was talking about their middle names, which led to conversation about ideas for baby names. Someone asked Rosie what her new baby was going to be named. She explained the mama had changed her mind. The leader looked Rosie right in the eye and said, "well it's good that baby gets to stay with it's mama."
REALLY? You're really going to look a 6 year old adoptee in the eye and tell her that? REALLY?
Cuz in case you didn't notice, she didn't get to. And yes, it bothers her.
Guess what Rosie's reaction was? Her head dropped instantly down in deep concentration of her project, and she dropped out of the conversation. Said leader didn't seem to notice the change at all. I personally spent a few minutes swearing out in the hallway.
Any ideas how I should handle this? Do I talk to the leader? The volunteer coordinator? What would you say to your child about it?