I often sense that the way I handle difficult situations for my children doesn't work well for them. Usually I have no plan, I just start talking. Here's something I'd like to try:
Five questions for you to ask your child to help him or her deal with problem situations:• What happened?• How did that make you feel?• What did you say or do when that happened?• If something like that happens again, do you think you willdeal with it the same way?• Would you like me to do something?
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I like all the questions except for one--"How did that make you feel?" I think language is powerful and I worry (perhaps too much) about the subtlety of the wording. I believe we experience feelings and reactions but that no one person or situation is responsible for making me feel a certain way. I prefer, "What are you feeling?" A bit petty, yes, but I think it gets us closer to taking responsible for our reactions rather than blaming others or a situation for our feelings.
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